Tuesday, October 20, 2009

If I had the Courage...

A colleague of mine, Marni Gillard, a storyteller, and teacher of storytelling skills, who is working with high school in Schenectady, recently asked the students to complete this sentence:

"If I had the courage, I would tell this story...."

Another colleague of mine - one of my most precious friends and mentors, Elizabeth Doty - has written a new book, which as of this week is available on Amazon. It's called "The Compromise Trap: How to Thrive at Work Without Selling Your Soul". The title gives you the gist, and I will talk much more about her work and our collaborations, I'm sure. For now let me simply say that Elizabeth offers tools, encouragement and strong arguments for bringing our best, most authentic and values-based selves to work: both for our own well-being, and for that of the world.

Sparked by both of these collaborations, I find myself asking: What stories am I telling? To myself, to others? Are they the "true" stories? The "important" stories? Are they simply the "safe" or "habitual" stories?

So, I'll pass along the questions:

What story would you tell...if you had the courage?

Who would you tell it to... if you had the courage?

What story would you stop telling...if you had the courage?

Why?

2 comments:

  1. I particularly like "what story would I STOP telling." That's like Magic!

    I once had a therapist (who I had implored to "give me some homework, because I'm sick of complaining, but never getting better")tell me to keep a thought log.

    I was meant to carry the book in my pocket and record every thought I had about myself.

    By the end of day one, the point had been made. Not only did I see how many times per day I repeated certain negative thoughts (hundreds) but I saw that the relationship of thought to truth was backwards. I wasn't observing the truth and commenting on it. I was creting "truths" by demanding it be truth through brow beating and repitition.

    It was so clear to me when I noticed that the thought, "I am ugly." wasn't a reaction to what saw in the mirror. It was what I planned to see. "I'm going to go see how ugly I am," I'd say as I was walking toward the mirror.
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  2. Thanks for the great examples. I love the idea of observing vs. creating the "truth". Here's to observing more accurately, and creating (because we always will) truths that are more useful and healthy.
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